You either have self-esteem issues, or something to hide. OR, you're a chronic liar and know it. Either way, it comes from inside.
SOLUTIONS
To the first one: I'm telling you, no matter who you are, be yourself. You'll be a lot happier, and the impact on the people around you is absolutely stunning. I only learned this lesson a short time ago, myself.
Something to Hide: Don't worry. People usually only find out if you act suspicious.
Chronic Liar: Stop lying.Why cant i look people in the eye?
Low self-esteem. You feel inferior in some way to the person you're with. It might be physically inferior, like you better not presume to look at the other person too directly, or he might take offense and stomp you. If might be morally inferior, like he's a very righteous, noble fellow beside whom you seem scruffy and disreputable. Not looking someone in the eye is commonly considered to be a sign of falseness, but that's not really true. It is, in fact, a sign of being intimidated.
I used to be like that. But then I realized that everyone else was looking at me in the eye and that I have nothing to hide so I started looking back and sometimes, THEY would look away!!
I think you just need to get involved with activities where you can build up confidence, you know, meet some new people and just believe in yourself!
Especially when someone pisses you off, make sure you STARE at them in the eye.
By not spending any time looking a person in the eye, indicates you are accepting a servant role. By not looking in their direction why they talk often indicates you are are not listen. Looking at someone directly in their eyes --staring is conceived as a sign of aggression. This method is often used by individuals in authority to get answers from individuals that they normally would not disclose. If you desire to not appear evasive, you may try and look at the spot between the person's eyes or watch their lips, movement of the lips and facial features can broadcast the attitude of the person speaking.
With some practice and a understanding of what can be discovered by watching someone speak, you will start looking them in the eye more often.
Even very professional speakers, debaters, and etc. do not stare or look at someone directly into their eyes, just watch the town hall meetings of McCain and Obama, the side by discussions of some of the talk shows like the ';The View';, ';Fox and Friends';, ';Meet the Press';, or even ';Larry King';. I am not a fan of many of these shows, but I have taken a peak at them once in a while.
Alot of people have that problem. including me.
I'm not sure of the reason, but I'm sure most people will say it's lack of confidence. I strongly disagree. I look away because that's how I listen to people best. I become distracted staring at people. You might be the same. Eyes are the window to the soul so I tend to close the blinds.
Unfortunately, there are situations when not looking people in the eye will hurt you. So I usually stare at their hair or forehead. Works like a charm.
maybe you're shy, or perhaps you have something you subconciously want to hide, something you are afraid of people discovering about you, or you are ashamed of something, and you feel people can see what you want to hide when you (or they) look directly into your eyes. perhaps.
maybe you keep thinking what they thinking about you.
so when you make eye contact with somebody, you fear they could be thinking bad about you no matter what the conversation is about. this is because when you look at somebody's eyes you can see their emotions on there face.
omgshhh let me tellllll yoou,
my 4th grade teacher did that
and it irritated me alot, like
she would look up down right
left but never at meeee. but u
no u cud always look at peoples
cheeks or lips, they prolly wont
even no that u arent lookin them
in the eyes....but it cud be social
anxiety, u dont have the confidence
to look at someone face to face,
%26amp; u shud practice..anywayss i
included a linkk that hopefully
will help you! dont worry about it
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I used to be real bad but with some practice you can hold it alot longer. Holding eye contact is intimidating and thats why people do it. The only thing I can tell you is leave the comfort zone and show the world you have some BRASS.
Stand up for what you believe in and confidence will follow
im the exact same way... i seriously cant.. well i can for like 2 seconds.. i think its just cause were self contious of something ..but i dont know it really annoys me but i used to be worst so i think im kinda growing out of it... i wish i could tell you really why
the eyes are the windows to your soul. its naturally where everybody feels most vulnerable. if you are not self confident then its hard for u to look at somebody in the eyes because it takes courage to take someone on in the most intimate sense.
clear your conscience.
when my mom stares at me at my eyes i sometimes look away cuz i hide things from her, therefore in front of her my conscience is unclean.
but thats about it, cuz she gives me those dark deep meaningful looks
shyness i guess.
i think im not shy but i look into somebodys eyes and i cant take it. i have to look away. i think its shyness
You are very very shy. It will take time to get comfortable with people, the only way to get over it is to get used to being around people, and getting to know many people. Hope this helps!
you lack confidence trust me this is the best answer. and if you want to know how to be confident all you gotta do is not be shy and talk more
You are letting people intimidate you. Find some people whom you are very comfortable with and start there. Church, School, Neighbors.
How should I know? Your the one looking away. Your shy. It's a characteristic you have. Give yourself some courage and HOLD their eyes. Maybe something will happen. Good or bad, WHO KNOWS.
Coz you are TOOOO shy
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It's usually a sign that you have low self esteem, and you feel inferior to others around you.
Me too! No one! My ex would always get annoyed. I can hold it about 5 seconds. For me it's cause I feel like they're studying my face and I get insecure. D: Maybe you feel awkward
so many people do this, but do try to look at them even if its just half a sec until u fell comfortable u dont want to look like ur not interested
maybe youre afraid of what you see in their eyes.
Your just like that. You sound guilty about something. I'm the same way which is why I said the guilty thing
how am i supposed to noe im not you!
I DO IT TOO!!!!
idky
but me and you
we are the S***!!!
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